Marriage Maintenance

If you want your marriage to work, you need to work on your marriage!

Couples tend to seek counselling when things have already being going wrong for a long time.  I've heard other counsellors say that most couples come to them 5 years too late!  That often rings true.  Except, it's never too late.

We tend to reach out only when we think we can no longer handle our situation.  Reaching out for help is often the most difficult part of making our lives better.  It really is difficult to say, "I need help.  I can't do this alone."  Once you do, though, it is surprising how quickly you can improve your situation.  That is not to say that everything will magically fix itself.  It still takes effort and a bit of time.  If something took years to become dysfunctional it may take some time to get healed.

Here's an idea for the New Year.  Reach out!  Call a friend.  Connect with family.  Set yourself up for counselling.  The first step is vital.   And in case you think it won't work anyways, that it is too late for you, take heart.  If your first attempt doesn't work the way you imagined, try again.  What's the most you can lose?  One hour and some cash?  That is definitely worth the risk compared to your relationship deteriorating even further.  Do it today.